Resourcing For Safety And Stability
Now that we’ve gone all the way around the “WOW,” I would like to poke around the wheel and discuss various aspects of wellness in the upcoming installments. Here, we’re visiting the “Stress Solutions” wedge of our wheel. In this article, we will be focusing on the concept of “Resourcing” since it is on my mind while I am preparing a presentation for the annual NEFESH Conference in New Jersey.
This year I am honored to be presenting with my dear colleague, Rozi Wax. The workshop title is: “Resourcing Your Clients – A Multiple Modality Toolbox for Early Trauma Work.” From a therapeutic or psychological perspective, what is Resourcing and are these resources? A resource is anything a person uses when in distress that can calm, settle, strengthen, or center him or her. Resources can be from within the person, such as thinking of a pleasant memory in a relaxing location, meditating, using one’s creativity, etc. Or they can also be from the outside, such as being with enjoyable people or joining in a pleasant activity.
The reason why our “toolbox” is for early trauma work, is since the client needs support and stability while they are “slaying their inner dragons.” Preparing the person with these tools and practices, prepares him for the heavier work ahead, which may involve discussing the traumatic themes and experiencing strong feelings and sensations. In the early phases of work before getting too deep into discussing what occurred, and activating the person’s, nervous system response, it is strongly advised to stabilize them first with resourcing. We provide tools and resources to develop a sense of safety so that when they do have the ability to speak about the issue, they can contain and experience their strong feelings without harm.
These techniques are found in many modalities, but specifically in the psychosensory therapies such as EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, Havening, EFT and TFT, etc. When clients have these resources, they can feel stable, and gently speak about and work through the issues. As the person becomes activated again, he stabilizes again. This may repeat a few times until the intensity of the feeling diminishes.
Resourcing can include grounding exercises, meditation exercises, breathing exercises, sensory and somatic exercises, self-soothing, touch, etc. My website is full of many techniques and free resources that my clients use regularly. These tools, techniques, and lifestyle enhancements are surprisingly simple and enjoyable. People are surprised that resourcing can be simple and so effective. It could be as easy calling a friend, or even imagining a favorite person. It could be thinking about a vacation that you’ve been on, and in your mind’s eye, you’re describing every sensory detail. You’d be surprised how profound regular practice can be for overall wellbeing!
CLICK HERE to enjoy my Micro Self-Care A-Z poster that is always free to download. It has 26 activities that you can start doing to become calmer, more present, and better resourced to face all of the challenges of our brave new world.
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