Soul Esteem™

There is a quiet miracle happening whenever two people speak: one nervous system is trying to imagine another. I can see your face, hear your words, and know something of your history, but I [...]

When I was younger, there was a national campaign called “Just Say No.” Its genius was its simplicity. Someone offers you something harmful. You say no. End of story.

“What you resist persists” can sound either deeply wise or suspiciously suitable for a decorative pillow. Yet beneath the slogan lies an important truth about the nervous system, the unconscious, [...]

Healthy relationships are not relationships without rupture. Parents misunderstand children. Spouses misread one another. Friends disappoint. Therapists miss cues. Human beings are complicated [...]

The Zohar teaches that we are obligated to praise Hashem for the miracles and kindnesses He shows us. Yet we often reserve the word miracle for splitting seas and dramatic rescues, while [...]

Howard Thurman, the twentieth-century theologian and civil rights leader, famously advised people not to ask only what the world needs, but to discover what makes them come alive. The world, he [...]

Some books offer information. Others change our moral eyesight. Adam Grant’s Give and Take belongs to the latter category. Grant describes three relational styles. Takers seek advantage. Matchers [...]

As we enter the Three Weeks, one of the most emotionally complex seasons of the Jewish calendar, we deliberately lower the volume of joy – “Mo’atim b’simcha.” We remember the breached walls of [...]

Many of you know that I teach self-regulation tools such as meditation, breathwork, guided relaxation, imagery, and somatic practices. These methods can help the nervous system settle, organize, [...]

I feel deeply blessed that, for much of my life, I have been able to open my eyes and feel gratitude for what I see. Perhaps I was born with a certain native optimism, inherited from my witty, [...]